How to Forgive & Gain Back Your Personal Power
The practice of forgiveness has been shown to reduce depression, anger, and stress which leads to greater feeling of hope, peace, self-confidence and better life. When we are resentful and full of unreleased painful emotions, we are clouded in our thinking and we are constantly thinking about the past and missing the present moment. I ask you, does it feel good to live in the past or thinking hopeful thoughts about the future?
in order to live your life to the fullest, You must learn to forgive and let go of emotionally painful event.
Being part of adult, there comes a time where we have to choose where we are headed and what is important right now, and we have to think about what happened in the past was an experience, and one must accept it objectively. It is hard, I have been there, believe me. But I had to learn to forgive and move on to better and bigger things. You know why it is so important that you forgive?
QUALITY OF YOUR LIFE DEPENDS ON IT
You cannot give another person a chance fully unless you are fully healed and ready to receive the new. And if you don’t forgive, then how can you start fresh? If You no longer want to be damaged, you must listen to that voice in your head which wants you to forgive and move on with the new. Life is full of experiences and when we encounter a painful relationship, we must release it and leave it in the past.
Steps to Forgiveness
Acknowledge that nobody is perfect: You cannot control anyone. The only control we have is in our emotions and how we choose to think. So when you let others behaviors make you feel sick in your stomach, it’s time to reset and step back from that situation. That is the time to indulge in self-care activities so you can release those negative energies that are waying on you.
Change your perspective: You have the power to change your emotional response regarding a painful experience. You can be deliberate and choose to different thoughts and focus on activities that bring you laughs and child like smile on your face. You have that power in you. Just give it a try few times.
Talk: Talk to someone you trust, and share how you felt regardless of how much you end up crying. Let your emotions out and don’t apologize. Pain is more bearable with someone there to listen.
Forgiveness is for YOU: Try to understand that forgiveness doesn’t necessarily mean you will reconcile with the person who hurted you. You are just trying to reach the acceptance of what happened in order to move pass that.
Acceptance: If that person is still in your life, now is the time to accept that individual as they are, without wanting to change their behaviors or aspects of their personality.
A life well lived: In his book Forgive for Good, Dr Fred Luskin recommends that people who are struggling to forgive “remember that a life well lived is your best revenge. Instead of focusing on your wounded feeling, and there by giving the person who caused you pain power over you, learn to look for the love, beauty and kindness around you. Forgiveness is about personal power.”